Some spouses love their mates so much that they tend to fall within the lines of verbal abuse when they are stressed. While Verbal abuse is haram in Islam from a spouse, she can have hope that her circumstance can change if she feels that he normally isn’t like this. If she realizes there are some trigger stresses that have him very stressed and may be unknowingly venting at her.

She can say to him “ I realize you are under a lot of stress given these circumstances, but I am not responsible for XYZ. I do not like when I feel like I am to blame.” Certainly a wise husband must realize that he cannot use his wife as a means to de-stress from the stresses that naturally occur for everyone at some time or another. (Lousy Leadership)

When a Husband acts very controlling and second guesses his wife's judgment:

A Smart Muslim woman could say “Thank you for loving me so much, I wouldn’t ever think I was deserving of so much love!”  Say this over and over 3-4 times. That can help some marriages from falling into despair and divorce.  Both parties can commit to making their marriage better.  Make amends by saying, “Let’s forget the past and start over.” It IS possible to start over and gain a happy marriage back. Women have to realize that Muslim men tend to be controlling and you will gain his respect towards you if you happily allow him to be controlling. Instead of fighting every notion he says, maybe he doesn’t want you ever to leave the house, unless with him. He should then just completely understand her need to like to leave the home and go shopping, go to the parks, exercise and do these things with her. Enjoy what she enjoys (that is halal).

Knowing what really ticks off your husband can steer you away from acts which you wouldn’t like for him to get angry with you.  And likewise the man should heed to what ticks her off as well. No one should feel as if they are walking on egg shells. Life if hard enough with all our tests, we need merciful spouses!

A Muslim husband who is suspicious and very mistrusting of his wife who has never proven to him that she deserves such behavior.  You have to realize that it is from your upbringing/societal issues that you have trust issues and it has NOTHING to do with her.  In order to cope with these horrible second guesses where you jump the gun thinking the absolute worst things that she is doing, remember what the Quran says.

Women who are married to men like this; you have to look at the fact that he doesn’t want to share you with anyone else and that he loves you so much. Instead of becoming annoyed with his antics, grab him and tell him, “I love you.” He continues with his antics, say, “I love you.”  “You are the best.” “Did I ever say to you Thank you for loving me so much, I never could believe anyone could love me much less that much.” These words are not just for him but for you too. To remind you that even though his behaviors are not all that desirable that the end result is because he loves you!

There are a lot of men who love so many women, even though he is married to one. He is playboy, cheater and is just basically all westernized and men like this make you want to die. Realize that his loving you is not all that bad; he is basically a good husband.