We at Habibi Matrimonials are very pleased to have the approval of Imam Mohammad Daniel from Kuwait, a Sunni Imam who is also a Muslim Consultative Scholar, Orator & Columnist and also a Founding Director at Cordoba Academy!

Shaykh Mohammed Daniel Muhajir al-Damishqi currently serves as a consultant to the Director of Public Affairs at the Kuwait Ministry of Endowments and Islamic Affairs, having previously worked as a consultant on Western Affairs for the Cultural Sector at the same Ministry.

Throughout his years of studying Islam in Syria, Saudi Arabia and Kuwait, he has received personal recognition and authorizations (ijazah) with a traceable chain of narration going back to the Prophet Muhammad in numerous books of Hadith (prophetic traditions) and Fiqh (jurisprudence) from scholars in the Middle East, South Asia and Africa.
He has had the immense privilege of studying under some of the world's leading scholars in their respective fields of Islamic Sciences, including, among others: Shaikh al-Musnid Abdul Wakil bin Abdul Haq al-Hashmi (Makkah), Dr. Mohammed Said Ramadan al-Buti (Syria), Shaikh Thanaullah Khan al-Madni (Pakistan), Dr. Wahba al-Zuhayli (Syria) Sheikh Abdur Razzaq al-Halabi (Syria),
During the years that he studied in Damascus, he was fortunate to study at both of the most famous seats of learning, Mahad Abu Nour and Mahad Fath al-Islami where he read in Azhar University Master’s Degree Program. In his second term at Mahad al-Fath he was requested to teach postgraduate students in the Faculty of Islamic Studies in International Languages, something he gladly took on while simultaneously studying at the Mahad and personally at the hands of renowned scholars.
Here is his nice letter of stamp of approval to join the Imams currently with us!

It is very exciting to have the cooperation of Imams/Shayhs who are there for the Muslims both in person as well as online. It's a vote of confidence that make one feel that they are not just seen behind closed doors in the masjed but also online where we all tend to be. Alhamdollilah!

Three years ago when I started Habibi Matrimonials I never gave thought to reject profiles based on they did not wear hijab. It didn't dawn on me until Ummahlinked had requested such on his own site as I was joining. It was then I blogged about this topic.
None of the six Imams we have thus far requested this but when I e-mail Imam Mohammad Daniel from Kuwait, a Muslim Consultative Scholar, Orator & Columnist he was staunch advocate that he could never join or support a site which has such profiles. I agree with him fully and began to see how many female profiles were without hijab and there were 13.
I contacted each profile to request a change of their picture within 24 hours, instead of just going ahead and deleting profiles that seem otherwise pretty sincere with seeking a spouse. Allah Alim
Imam Mohammad Daniel e-mail kind of alarmed me, I don't know why but it was a wake up call to obey Allahs on his commands and if I see anything online so many Muslim webmasters totally ignore the commands from Allah (SWT). Allowing the social mixing of Muslims so females can eaily chat and make friends with Muslim men. In Islam this social mixing is not allowed unless you have intention for marriage and often times one may need a gaurdian such as a Wali.
We gave the 13 profiles 24 hours notice to change their picture but in hindsight some may be on vacation and not receive their notices and thus what we decided to do was to place these 13 profiles so only they could see their profile, no one else until they are to comply with the picture change request.
So what's a girl to do if she doesn't wear hijab in real life? You can just add no avatar and state on your profile that you do not wear hijab. We are not going to dive into your personal life, but we just want no "fitna" with the Imams joining us to help all the single Muslims. I hope you understand our intention. We do not care to be Religious Police, only we want to comply with what Islam directs us to do.
Jazak Allah Khair
Admin

Some spouses love their mates so much that they tend to fall within the lines of verbal abuse when they are stressed. While Verbal abuse is haram in Islam from a spouse, she can have hope that her circumstance can change if she feels that he normally isn’t like this. If she realizes there are some trigger stresses that have him very stressed and may be unknowingly venting at her.

She can say to him “ I realize you are under a lot of stress given these circumstances, but I am not responsible for XYZ. I do not like when I feel like I am to blame.” Certainly a wise husband must realize that he cannot use his wife as a means to de-stress from the stresses that naturally occur for everyone at some time or another. (Lousy Leadership)

When a Husband acts very controlling and second guesses his wife's judgment:

A Smart Muslim woman could say “Thank you for loving me so much, I wouldn’t ever think I was deserving of so much love!”  Say this over and over 3-4 times. That can help some marriages from falling into despair and divorce.  Both parties can commit to making their marriage better.  Make amends by saying, “Let’s forget the past and start over.” It IS possible to start over and gain a happy marriage back. Women have to realize that Muslim men tend to be controlling and you will gain his respect towards you if you happily allow him to be controlling. Instead of fighting every notion he says, maybe he doesn’t want you ever to leave the house, unless with him. He should then just completely understand her need to like to leave the home and go shopping, go to the parks, exercise and do these things with her. Enjoy what she enjoys (that is halal).

Knowing what really ticks off your husband can steer you away from acts which you wouldn’t like for him to get angry with you.  And likewise the man should heed to what ticks her off as well. No one should feel as if they are walking on egg shells. Life if hard enough with all our tests, we need merciful spouses!

A Muslim husband who is suspicious and very mistrusting of his wife who has never proven to him that she deserves such behavior.  You have to realize that it is from your upbringing/societal issues that you have trust issues and it has NOTHING to do with her.  In order to cope with these horrible second guesses where you jump the gun thinking the absolute worst things that she is doing, remember what the Quran says.

Women who are married to men like this; you have to look at the fact that he doesn’t want to share you with anyone else and that he loves you so much. Instead of becoming annoyed with his antics, grab him and tell him, “I love you.” He continues with his antics, say, “I love you.”  “You are the best.” “Did I ever say to you Thank you for loving me so much, I never could believe anyone could love me much less that much.” These words are not just for him but for you too. To remind you that even though his behaviors are not all that desirable that the end result is because he loves you!

There are a lot of men who love so many women, even though he is married to one. He is playboy, cheater and is just basically all westernized and men like this make you want to die. Realize that his loving you is not all that bad; he is basically a good husband.

 

We send out monthly e-mails to members sharing with them our latest and greatest new, but the main idea behind the e-mails is to monitor the activity of the users. If an e-mail bounces back, we also delete their respective profiles. We feel if we cannot contact them, how can YOU?

Little things like this help keep a nice pool of Muslims for the would be seeker.

I was reading about what to look out for in a Muslim Matrimonials and there was advice I did not tend to agree with and that is to stay away from free Matrimonials site. Maybe for others but not for Habibi. They were saying you would be inundated with pop up ads, advertisements and so forth. We would never do that to you.

It doesn't cost us much to maintain the site. Less than $10.00/month. Why in the world would I need to get that from the members, unless I was in hard times and then if I was in that bad of hard times I reduce my food budget to make sure Habibi Matrimonials was live.

I think Muslim Matrimonials is a business where they HOPE to generate income. Okay that is halal but what service do they provide that they can justify the expenses offset to you? Um I am listening here. No response. There are none. Unless they do paid ads that pop up in your face everywhere you go while on the web-eh??!

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t is with great honor we have the support of quality sites like OnIslam.net, our recent sponsor for our upcoming banner ads!

OnIslam.net was launched in August 2010 (Ramadan 1431 A.H.) under the umbrella of Mada Media Development Association, a non-profit civil society institution born in Egypt with a global outlook.

The two editorially-independent editions of OnIslam.net, in English and in Arabic, cover Islam as a religion for all aspects of life, and Muslims as international citizens.

OnIslam.net provides social and life counseling services through professional counselors who specialize in different fields of religion, society, family, development, health, and education. They also present relevant training courses to those who need them.

Both English and Arabic editions of OnIslam.net contain five key components that arise from the comprehensive roles of the institution. These five components are:

1- News: This provides information and news reports about important events concerning the world in general and Muslims in particular and the major issues that affect them, the most important of which are Palestine and Jerusalem, and Muslims living in the West. Focus is also made on forgotten regions of the Muslim world, especially in sub-Saharan Africa.

2- Introducing Islam: This component is presented mainly through English website, under the name Reading Islam. This section serves as a reference for non-Muslims and new Muslims to learn about Islam in a simple and straightforward manner.

3- Human Development: This component is presented mainly through the Arabic website, under the name Namaa'. This section is intended to encourage production and human development by passing on different experiences and offering relevant training workshops.

4- Counseling: This component serves as a reference for Muslims on how their religion interacts with their daily lives. Three different services are provided that cover:

Religion, which provides fatwas and how a Muslim can lead an interactive daily life.

Society, which provides social counseling and discusses the social issues related to the Muslim family.

Health and Science, which provides scientific consultations and advises with what is new in the spheres of science and health.

5- An Intellectual Component: This component is primarily meant to review and renew Islamic discourse and related practices with the aim of discussing it in a contemporary fashion that is still compatible with the roots of Islam. This component is also intended to pave the way for inter-faith dialogue and for probing the relationship between religion and life.

Habibi Matrimonials welcomes Imam Faoud AbdulKader! Recently moving to the Bay Area he says to act as Imam and Islamic Teacher in Quran/Islamic Knowledges in San Francisco, CA.
Having Imams join us in such numbers is very pleasing because it shows on some levels that they are giving us a vote of confidence, that they are not secluded to their own communities and that they can reach out and help the ummah in the manner that is very much needed.
So let us all welcome Imam AbdulKader to Habibi Matrimonials.
So what are you waiting for? The long time to come Muslim Matrimonials has arrived, now you CAN say there is a quality Muslim Matrimonials! And we not do charge you even a dime.

 

Habibi Matrimonials is Celebrating it's Third Anniversary!

2012-05-12

By Habibi Matrimonials

Alexa and Google rate this site as within the top ten Muslim Matrimonials

For_Immediate_Release:

Habibi Matrimonials was created in May 2009 after a favorite site closed down (Muslim Matrimonials Network) and members were given the option to relocate to another website. There was a fleeting thought that to create another site like the one that closed down would be “easy.”

The name is from my Orange Tabby Cat named “Habibi” meaning "my love" in Arabic and perfectly fitting for a Muslim Matrimonials, she felt.

With just Corporate Sales experience “it was the toughest sales job I ever had with the least amount of reward”, replied Habibi Matrimonials owner.

“I do not tend to agree that in order to make a site, a quality site that you have to get members to pay.” Said Habibi Matrimonials “Some say, free sites are not well managed. ‘True in some sense but not in my world.” replied Habibi Matrimonials. “I have the time to manage the site 11 hours a day, and thus I watch my site as IF I were paid to watch it. “

“Many Muslims tend to have bad opinion about Muslim Matrimonials and this can make it for anyone to get to the top extremely difficult. Unless you have a lot of cash to pay for ads which often you like to get your investment back and then you charge members. I didn’t want to tread on that path, so with a lot of constant diligence, we received support from quality sponsors.” said Habibi Matrimonials.

“I didn’t plan to be different from the beginning. I was thinking to be like all the others, but that is not a good idea when Muslim Matrimonials were growing in much negativity with the Muslim population. And I felt that negativity when I was seeking help. I felt there is a reason why to do the right thing (halal) is not found on Muslim Matrimonials and that is because it is the hardest way.”

“On Yahoo Answers we asked the Muslims “How can Muslim Matrimonials be different” & ‘What’s wrong with Muslim Matrimonials?” I was listening for real responses. One wrote back that, “Muslim Matrimonials are all bad and should not exist IF they did have to exist it would be only for the Imams to have access to and none of the single female Muslims.” It was then the idea was sprouted to gain Imams. I kind of felt that would be difficult but I am not afraid of difficult.” Continued Habibi Matrimonials.

“We cannot brag we have thousands of profiles, because we often delete profiles to ensure the pool is a serious mix of good prospect for Marriage. We use the e-mail to send out monthly e-mails and we do not care if you do not open the e-mails, but we do care when they bounce back. It is then the profile is deleted. If a member suspends their profile, it will be deleted. If someone joins and wants to play, they are deleted.” Replied Habibi Matrimonials. With all real profiles and a zero tolerance on scammers/spammers makes for Habibi Matrimonails to be exactly what she claims it to be.

The day when you can say "there is one good Muslim Matrimonials" is here and now.

It’s been three years and Habibi Matrimonials is in the Top 10 for Muslim Matrimonials according to Google.com and Alexa.com