Seeking friends on a Muslim Matrimonials means to seekers of marriage that you are not serious.  You can display a beard down to your navel but it won’t hide the fact that you’re wording is an outright intention not to be serious for marriage.  You will be seen as someone looking at the goods but not offering anything for those goods. Women who want to marry do not want to be approached by men who have intention for friendship.

It means that despite you pray 5 times a day and fast in Ramadan and give to the needy that you behind closed doors would dive into haram relationships with women. A Muslim man who joins any Muslim Matrimonials should well know that his intention for friendship is seen in this manner.  Even if the Muslim Matrimonials uses such wording in their profile set up!

Americanized Muslim men tend to think seeking friendships with Muslim women online is okay.  I am in the understanding that it is not okay and here are references to back that up;

Narrated Ibn Abbas: "That he heard the Prophet saying, ' It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman, and no lady should travel except with a Muhram (i.e. her husband or a person whom she cannot marry in any case for ever; e.g. her father, brother, etc.).' Then a man got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have enlisted in the army for such-and-such ghazwa and my wife is proceeding for Hajj.' Allah's Apostle said, ' Go, and perform the Hajj with your wife.'"

Narrated Abdullah bin Abbas: "Al-Fadl (his brother) was riding behind Allah's Apostle and a woman from the tribe of Khath'am came and Al-Fadl started looking at her and she started looking at him. The Prophet turned Al-Fadl's face to the other side." (Bukhari)

"Enjoin the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that is safer for them. Surely Allah is well aware of their actions. Likewise enjoin the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; not to display their beauty and ornaments except what normally appears thereof; let them draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their charms except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their own sons, their stepsons, their own brothers, their nephews on either brothers' or sisters' sides, their own womenfolk, their own slaves, male attendants who lack sexual desires or small children who have no carnal knowledge of women. Also enjoin them not to strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden trinkets. And O believers! Turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, about your past mistakes, so that you may attain salvation." (24:30-31)

"And come not near unto adultery. Lo! it is an abomination and an evil way." (17:32)

Women who speak to men with the intention for marriage and you find out he has no intention to marry you and requests that you “remain friends.” Do not do so.  Mention that you have come to this decision through your religious understanding.  Men have a tendency to make women feel weak when she is seeking a spouse, especially after years of seeking. She can feel very confident about herself and her abilities to be a good wife and mother but in the end men tend to weaken the knees of women especially while in the phase of seeking a husband.

Many Muslim Matrimonials open the door wide open as a ploy to gain memberships, even if they are owned by Muslims themselves. As an Admin myself I can fully understand the desire to populate their site but if any Muslim Matrimonials is going to stand upright in the eyes of Allah (swt) we would have to do it the honest way and that is not to fool the Muslims to become attracted to the wrong path.

In the end we hope our members would be thoughtful NOT to tread down the path of seeking, "Friendship" on a Muslim Matrimonials.