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here is an unspoken law with sons who were born in the Middle East and this law is not something that is often not discussed prior to marriage. A revert to Islam may have no clue this law exists and she should know.

The unspoken law I am speaking about it the maintenance her future Mother in law will receive if her husband has passed away. As you know there is no Social Security set up in other lands in the way it helps the aged parents. The only social security your future mother-in-law has is the sons she has brought to this life. While you may be very thankful that she raised such a great future husband, you may be in for somewhat of a surprised how much of your funds are spent for her welfare, medication in her country. If there are many sons than the many sons can share the cost of maintaining mom but usually it falls on the first born son. If the first born son cannot afford to send money to Mom then he will ask his other male siblings to take over and thus she is never left without. It’s a great system for caring for Mom. It is well known that in Islam heaven is under the feet of our Muslim Mothers and thus the adult children will do all they can to please Momma.

In America we the system is so different and not that it’s better, it is just different.  In America we have Social Security and Medicare to help sustain Mom.  Mom may receive anything she needs from her children (male or female) but we are more relaxed and sometimes even tight wad about helping our Moms.  Whereas the female child in the Middleast who is married will not be responsible for her own Mother for her finances, but maybe she will care for her for other means.  The daughter will only be responsible for Mother-in-law and so this neat little system pretty much ensures that she will be taken care of based on the means of her son(s).

Moms in America can be sent to a retirement homes/ nursing homes-left alone to never be seen from again or receive regular visits.  The idea that mom comes to live within your home is not taken for granted. If Mom cannot live by herself in her own home, she is either left to live her years in a retirement/nursing home or left to struggle on her own. Moms in USA may live without heat,  medical care and even proper nutrition even though USA is considered an advanced social system.

If you see a Mom in the Middle East being ignored, it will be extremely rare.   Daughters- in- laws should know how much her husband plans to take from their income to support the Mother-in –law. They should speak about this before the marriage.  If there is a father in law in the picture and he is unable to support his wife he will also be sent support payments.  It also depends on which country they come from and how wealthy the country is to support its own people.