Saturday, May 26, 2012

We send out monthly e-mails to members sharing with them our latest and greatest new, but the main idea behind the e-mails is to monitor the activity of the users. If an e-mail bounces back, we also delete their respective profiles. We feel if we cannot contact them, how can YOU?

Little things like this help keep a nice pool of Muslims for the would be seeker.

I was reading about what to look out for in a Muslim Matrimonials and there was advice I did not tend to agree with and that is to stay away from free Matrimonials site. Maybe for others but not for Habibi. They were saying you would be inundated with pop up ads, advertisements and so forth. We would never do that to you.

It doesn't cost us much to maintain the site. Less than $10.00/month. Why in the world would I need to get that from the members, unless I was in hard times and then if I was in that bad of hard times I reduce my food budget to make sure Habibi Matrimonials was live.

I think Muslim Matrimonials is a business where they HOPE to generate income. Okay that is halal but what service do they provide that they can justify the expenses offset to you? Um I am listening here. No response. There are none. Unless they do paid ads that pop up in your face everywhere you go while on the web-eh??!

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t is with great honor we have the support of quality sites like OnIslam.net, our recent sponsor for our upcoming banner ads!
OnIslam.net was launched in August 2010 (Ramadan 1431 A.H.) under the umbrella of Mada Media Development Association, a non-profit civil society institution born in Egypt with a global outlook.
The two editorially-independent editions of OnIslam.net, in English and in Arabic, cover Islam as a religion for all aspects of life, and Muslims as international citizens.
OnIslam.net provides social and life counseling services through professional counselors who specialize in different fields of religion, society, family, development, health, and education. They also present relevant training courses to those who need them.
Both English and Arabic editions of OnIslam.net contain five key components that arise from the comprehensive roles of the institution. These five components are:
1- News: This provides information and news reports about important events concerning the world in general and Muslims in particular and the major issues that affect them, the most important of which are Palestine and Jerusalem, and Muslims living in the West. Focus is also made on forgotten regions of the Muslim world, especially in sub-Saharan Africa.
2- Introducing Islam: This component is presented mainly through English website, under the name Reading Islam. This section serves as a reference for non-Muslims and new Muslims to learn about Islam in a simple and straightforward manner.
3- Human Development: This component is presented mainly through the Arabic website, under the name Namaa'. This section is intended to encourage production and human development by passing on different experiences and offering relevant training workshops.
4- Counseling: This component serves as a reference for Muslims on how their religion interacts with their daily lives. Three different services are provided that cover:
Religion, which provides fatwas and how a Muslim can lead an interactive daily life.
Society, which provides social counseling and discusses the social issues related to the Muslim family.
Health and Science, which provides scientific consultations and advises with what is new in the spheres of science and health.
5- An Intellectual Component: This component is primarily meant to review and renew Islamic discourse and related practices with the aim of discussing it in a contemporary fashion that is still compatible with the roots of Islam. This component is also intended to pave the way for inter-faith dialogue and for probing the relationship between religion and life.
Habibi Matrimonials welcomes Imam Faoud AbdulKader! Recently moving to the Bay Area he says to act as Imam and Islamic Teacher in Quran/Islamic Knowledges in San Francisco, CA.Welcome Imam AbdulKader
Having Imams join us in such numbers is very pleasing because it shows on some levels that they are giving us a vote of confidence, that they are not secluded to their own communities and that they can reach out and help the ummah in the manner that is very much needed.
So let us all welcome Imam AbdulKader to Habibi Matrimonials.
So what are you waiting for? The long time to come Muslim Matrimonials has arrived, now you CAN say there is a quality Muslim Matrimonials! And we not do charge you even a dime.

 

Monday, May 21, 2012

Habibi Matrimonials is Celebrating it's Third Anniversary!




Alexa and Google rate this site as within the top ten Muslim Matrimonials


Saturday, May 19, 2012


Imams, particularly in Sunni Islam, represent the Prophet Muhammad and serve as spiritual and community leaders. In the mosque, they lead prayers and are responsible for mastering--and preferably memorizing--the Qur'an, as well as the schools of thought related to proper social and religious conduct. In addition, imams work with members of the mosque community regarding their everyday lives and relationships. In general, then, an ideal imam's qualities will likely include intelligence, a sense of duty to God and fellow believers, and, an ability to work with many types of people.
History
The office of imam began near the end of Muhammad's life when he was too ill to lead in person. With prayer a central activity of Muslim spiritual life, Muhammad appointed his father-in-law Abu Bakr, someone respected for his knowledge of Islam as well as his moral reputation.
Responsibilities
An imam's primary responsibility, particularly among Sunnis, is to lead community prayer. Though women cannot lead men in prayer, they may lead other women. Though these leaders occasionally deliver sermons, such messages are more commonly presented by Sheikhs, or elders. Crucially, imams remain available for community members to question regarding Muslim doctrine.
Characteristics
According to Abdul Aziz Kamal in his book "Everyday Fiqh," a Sunni imam should be the "best man" in a body of believers regarding "matters of knowledge, righteousness, spirit of sacrifice and insight into religion," as well as someone who holds "leadership qualities to guide them in the practical affairs of life." In other words, he should be a knowledgeable, competent and moral member of the community.


*At Habibi Matrimonials we only allow Sunni Imams to join, to stamp out the fitna factor with the present five Imams we have with us!

Friday, May 18, 2012

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n Egypt (in times past) there was a business where they had an office where you could pay to speak to a woman for a certain period of time. Something like ( $20.00 for 15 minutes.) If he wanted to marry her and vice versa they would speak until she agrees, only she never agrees and the office takes your money with no refund in mind...  Nice business-eh? Very haram!
Yesterday as I was browsing the web I learned there was a website in which claims “Halal”, yet she has 50-60% fake profiles. What is halal about this? She wear niqab in her Facebook picture which would indicate that she is a good Muslims. I would like to ask her how she can claim halal in this manner to deceive the people?Online Matchmaking
There are women in Egypt who make it their business to do matchmaking. If you have a son or daughter that needs to be married, you would go to her and request that she refer someone with good deen and then do a follow up by asking the local Imam if this person considered for marriage is a good Muslim as well as their family are good Muslims.  This is very noble from the sisters who play match maker.
On Linkedin some may be online matchmakers taking information via pen and paper and suggestions may be e-mailed. I have seen this way more frequently. I do not know how many actually marry this way or if it’s a lot of wasted effort for the matchmaker. Mash Allah for those involved in such actitivies, because this may take a lot of their time. In asking them to join us at Habibi Matrimonials, I was met with the response that they do not have a website because they do not want their pictures shown. I replied, " This is perfect because we have that option not to have their pictures shown, they can upload an Avatar use no pictures." No reply has been received, but I think these people who forward their information to be used in this manner must have good deen because I would think you would have to have alot of Sabr (patience) for this.
Ads in back of magazines now have been replaced by ads on websites, no real interaction unless the e-mail he sent for you to contact him actually is live and he is still looking and replies back.
Online Muslim Matrimonials have been around for about ten + years, where they mimic the dating website for the kufr.  They have bad reputation for a lot of Muslims, yet they work.
The concept behind a Muslim Matrimonials is for pure intention of marriage.  Though as people do not  have very good deen they join for many haram activities as this impacts the lives of those already on those sites. Admins job is to gain many members and not delete many members who are bad for the ummah. The Admin job is to make money end of story. Those who complain on a tradional Muslim Matrimonials will not be heard and that's no surprise when money is in their eyes.
That is not the case for Habibi Matrimonials. We depend on you to report any spam/scam e-mail and we rely on you to ensure those who contact you are doing so for the right reasons-marriage, if other reasons, share with us and we will take action. We WILL TAKE ACTION to safegaurd your welfare.
Then there are matchmaking events, where you pay a hefty fee to eat dinner with your parents present while you try to speak to prospective mates. There is a site called, Meet-up where singles in the San Francisco Bay Area in California meet up for activities for the sake of marriage. This is something I never knew existed when I was single.
Personally I feel you can gauge whether someone is serious for marriage online better than in person. Less pressure combined with whether you choose to respond to a prospective suitor is your choice with Imams on board you can be better represented.
It's all your choice but in the end you can finally say, "There is a good Muslim Matrimonials and that is Habibi Matrimonials!"
In looking for a News article on Imam Hassan A. Amin, no where to be found. I hadn't mentioned his arrival to Habibi Matrimonials, rather I had in our monthly e-mails. I didn't really think beyond Imam Hassan Amin that I would see other Imams join. It was just that I caught him accepting an invitation to connect on Linkedin that I soon after invited him to join Habibi Matrimonials.Imam Amin
Imam Hassan A. Amin also was the first to give glowing references for Habibi via Linkedin which can be seen on our home page for Habibi Matrimonials. Tiny things like this helped us gain quality sponsors which gave us more free advertising.
Imam Hassan Amin is owner of a very cool cause called Muslim Social Services Agency in Baltimore, MD. The Muslim Social Services Agency’s (MSSA) mission is to provide care, resources and services to those in need. They promote self-sufficiency, social well-being and assistance programs to low income, disadvantaged individuals and families. They also provide resources, aid and comfort to women and children who are victims of domestic violence.MSSA
Some of the many initiatives like Disaster Relief Training/Emergency/First Aid to the low income population, Safe Haven Program. Safe Haven is designed to give victims of domestic violence a safe and fresh start of life without their abuser. The Mo’ Money Project’s primary focus on the low income, working poor college student. Each month for one hour per week twenty students will attend a financial literacy class. Each class would focus on a particular financial area such as saving, debt management, credit, budgeting, etc. After the students have completed the month long classes they would have the options of putting into practice the financial skills they had learned in their classes. They would deposit $25. in a deposit only account for at least six months. The Mo’ Money Project would add an additional $75. to the same account per month. At the end of a six month period the $600.00 in the account will only be used by the students towards their college tuition, books or college fees.
You can donate to his worthy initiative through his web page. Please welcome Imam Hassan A. Amin to Habibi Matrimonials. He is the reason why I believe other Imams came on board after him. Cool





We received an e-mail from a banner exchange program indicating we were within the top 3 on Page 1 for Muslim Matrimonials in Google. I didn't believe it because whenever I looked it was within the top 10 sites in Google, well yesterday Habibi indeed the Top 2 even beating zawaj dot com who has been around for 14 years or longer and we have been on 3 years. Alhamdollilah!
Insha Allah that will help us gain more members who are good prospects for you to choose from.
Since seeing is believing here is a snap shot that I was able to take to share with you!
Google Placement!
 

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

5th Imam to Join the Ranks at Habibi Matrimonials!

Shaikh Habeeb Alli from Toronto, Canada joined the ranks at Habibi Matrimonials being our 5th Imam to date. And our 1st Imam from Canada to help represent the single Muslims from his area. Shaykh Habeeb Alli
Shaikh Habeeb Ali is an author, scholar, poet and educator. He was born in Enmore, Guyana. He grew up in Guyana during his formative years and then pursued his graduate studies in India after graduating from Queen’s College. He returned to Guyana after completing a Masters in Islam and Arabic Language along with a diploma in Journalism.
Habeeb immigrated to Canada almost a decade ago and presently resides in Toronto with his family and works as a Professor, Communications Coordinator and a Federal Chaplain. He has taught Islam and Arabic within the Ontario Curriculum and is an Executive Writer for The Ambition Newspaper in Toronto.
He has authored fourteen books on Islam and poetry. Since arriving in Canada, he has taught world religions and has been actively writing fiction and non-fiction books that are both thoughtful and informative. His latest book, “Intimacy and the Sacred – In Muslim Communities” talks about sexuality in the light the Quran and Sunnah within modern society.
In addition, Mr. Alli has published numerous articles and has been a guest lecturer at many conferences. He is often invited in the media to speak on Islam and contemporary issues within the Canadian context.Intimacy and the Sacred
Imam Habeeb is a member of the Canadian Council of Imams, and an Executive at the Pakaraima Writers Association. He volunteers in a number of social justice projects and participates in numerous interfaith dialogues in Toronto.

Monday, May 14, 2012

Muslims in America tend to act more American than Muslim. Dating and premarital sex are what you will find when you are seeking a spouse. As daunting as this is, add that maybe you are a convert and you thought all Muslims were very reilgious and would never act like this!American Muslim
It was once said to me, “90% of all Muslims in America are not serious Muslims.” I do not know 90% of all Muslims nor can I pass judgment but I have been in the shoes of seeking a partner in times past and 98% of all Muslim men wanted sex outside of marriage, who did not want to commit to marriage, who wanted to marry me for a Green Card, who wanted to take me as a second wife but couldn’t maintain the fairness factor, men who thought that all Americans are “easy to land in bed"
I do not know why for that reason why a so called “Muslim” by name would specifically sign up for a Muslim Matrimonials to see a Muslim when they are doing nothing in the way of the teachings of their religion.
Seeking Marriage in American is down right is the worst experience and I would use a swear word here but because I am Muslim I shall refrain.  It’s just THAT bad! Ya Allah!
You go to your local Imam and ask for him to RECOMMEND any brothers who are pious and seeking marriage and he gives your contact information to the prospective brother and he contacts you (no Imam involved at this point) and you meet in a public place and he speaks to you and all is well, but you have feeling because you are insecure that he will not likely call you back and so you took time for an effort that almost makes you want to cry. To your surprise he calls you back to meet in a public place. He then says to you he is not ready for marriage but he wanted to know if you wanted to have sex in a nearby hotel. Ya Allah! You tell the Imam what happened and he too is shocked and said, “He comes to the masjed all the time for prayer, I am so sorry sister, I could never believe he would do such a thing. “ Quote from Imam
Imams obviously do not know the men in which Muslim women are to meet. We assume as females that the Imam will be well in touch with his ummah and knows who is a good pious Muslim and who is not. But like we tend to like to think we know someone, they can surprise us with an amazing amount of shock at times. And so no one ever really can know someone unless they grow up with them and see him how he acts as a child, as a teen, as a young adult. You know his family. Maybe at that point you would know someone well enough to say, “I can vouch for him, he is a good brother in Islam” the two of your either find that you both are suitable seekers of marriage or if one of you has other plans.Islam
Do not approach marriage as a happily ever after deal. Be happy with where you are now in whatever circumstance you are in and do not place so much of your emotional energy into seeking, feeling bad when you are not chosen, feeling sad when it takes so long. We know too often it’s not the fault of the sisters, although as the saying goes, “It takes two to Tango.” In this case I think its much more the problem with the Muslim Men in American tend to want to do it the American way and then I have to ask them why do you seek a Muslim woman?
 

Sunday, May 13, 2012

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
San Jose, California, United States of America (Free-Press-Release.com) May 12, 2012 -- Habibi Matrimonials was created in May 2009 after a favorite site closed down (Muslim Matrimonials Network) and members were given the option to relocate to another website. There was a fleeting thought that to create another site like the one that closed down would be “easy.”

The name is from my Orange Tabby Cat named “Habibi” meaning "my love" in Arabic and perfectly fitting for a Muslim Matrimonials, she felt.
With just Corporate Sales experience “it was the toughest sales job I ever had with the least amount of reward”, replied Habibi Matrimonials owner.

“I do not tend to agree that in order to make a site, a quality site that you have to get members to pay.” Said Habibi Matrimonials “Some say, free sites are not well managed. ‘True in some sense but not in my world.” replied Habibi Matrimonials. “I have the time to manage the site 11 hours a day, and thus I watch my site as IF I were paid to watch it. “
“Many Muslims tend to have bad opinion about Muslim Matrimonials and this can make it for anyone to get to the top extremely difficult. Unless you have a lot of cash to pay for ads which often you like to get your investment back and then you charge members. I didn’t want to tread on that path, so with a lot of constant diligence, we received support from quality sponsors.” said Habibi Matrimonials.

“I didn’t plan to be different from the beginning. I was thinking to be like all the others, but that is not a good idea when Muslim Matrimonials were growing in much negativity with the Muslim population. And I felt that negativity when I was seeking help. I felt there is a reason why to do the right thing (halal) is not found on Muslim Matrimonials and that is because it is the hardest way.”
“On Yahoo Answers we asked the Muslims “How can Muslim Matrimonials be different” & ‘What’s wrong with Muslim Matrimonials?” I was listening for real responses. One wrote back that, “Muslim Matrimonials are all bad and should not exist IF they did have to exist it would be only for the Imams to have access to and none of the single female Muslims.” It was then the idea was sprouted to gain Imams. I kind of felt that would be difficult but I am not afraid of difficult.” Continued Habibi Matrimonials.
“We cannot brag we have thousands of profiles, because we often delete profiles to ensure the pool is a serious mix of good prospect for Marriage. We use the e-mail to send out monthly e-mails and we do not care if you do not open the e-mails, but we do care when they bounce back. It is then the profile is deleted. If a member suspends their profile, it will be deleted. If someone joins and wants to play, they are deleted.” Replied Habibi Matrimonials. With all real profiles and a zero tolerance on scammers/spammers makes for Habibi Matrimonails to be exactly what she claims it to be.

The day when you can say "there is one good Muslim Matrimonials" is here and now.

It’s been three years and Habibi Matrimonials is in the Top 10 for Muslim Matrimonials according to Google.com and Alexa.com

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

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here is an unspoken law with sons who were born in the Middle East and this law is not something that is often not discussed prior to marriage. A revert to Islam may have no clue this law exists and she should know. Middle Eastern Husband
The unspoken law I am speaking about it the maintenance her future Mother in law will receive if her husband has passed away. As you know there is no Social Security set up in other lands in the way it helps the aged parents. The only social security your future mother-in-law has is the sons she has brought to this life. While you may be very thankful that she raised such a great future husband, you may be in for somewhat of a surprised how much of your funds are spent for her welfare, medication in her country. If there are many sons than the many sons can share the cost of maintaining mom but usually it falls on the first born son. If the first born son cannot afford to send money to Mom then he will ask his other male siblings to take over and thus she is never left without. It’s a great system for caring for Mom. It is well known that in Islam heaven is under the feet of our Muslim Mothers and thus the adult children will do all they can to please Momma. I wear Pink for my Mother-in-law
In America we the system is so different and not that it’s better, it is just different.  In America we have Social Security and Medicare to help sustain Mom.  Mom may receive anything she needs from her children (male or female) but we are more relaxed and sometimes even tight wad about helping our Moms.  Whereas the female child in the Middleast who is married will not be responsible for her own Mother for her finances, but maybe she will care for her for other means.  The daughter will only be responsible for Mother-in-law and so this neat little system pretty much ensures that she will be taken care of based on the means of her son(s).
Moms in America can be sent to a retirement homes/ nursing homes-left alone to never be seen from again or receive regular visits.  The idea that mom comes to live within your home is not taken for granted. If Mom cannot live by herself in her own home, she is either left to live her years in a retirement/nursing home or left to struggle on her own. Moms in USA may live without heat,  medical care and even proper nutrition even though USA is considered an advanced social system. Love
If you see a Mom in the Middle East being ignored, it will be extremely rare.   Daughters- in- laws should know how much her husband plans to take from their income to support the Mother-in –law. They should speak about this before the marriage.  If there is a father in law in the picture and he is unable to support his wife he will also be sent support payments.  It also depends on which country they come from and how wealthy the country is to support its own people.
 

Monday, May 7, 2012

Seeking friends on a Muslim Matrimonials means to seekers of marriage that you are not serious.  You can display a beard down to your navel but it won’t hide the fact that you’re wording is an outright intention not to be serious for marriage.  You will be seen as someone looking at the goods but not offering anything for those goods. Women who want to marry do not want to be approached by men who have intention for friendship.
It means that despite you pray 5 times a day and fast in Ramadan and give to the needy that you behind closed doors would dive into haram relationships with women. A Muslim man who joins any Muslim Matrimonials should well know that his intention for friendship is seen in this manner.  Even if the Muslim Matrimonials uses such wording in their profile set up! Love Allah
Americanized Muslim men tend to think seeking friendships with Muslim women online is okay.  I am in the understanding that it is not okay and here are references to back that up;
Narrated Ibn Abbas: "That he heard the Prophet saying, ' It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman, and no lady should travel except with a Muhram (i.e. her husband or a person whom she cannot marry in any case for ever; e.g. her father, brother, etc.).' Then a man got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have enlisted in the army for such-and-such ghazwa and my wife is proceeding for Hajj.' Allah's Apostle said, ' Go, and perform the Hajj with your wife.'"
Narrated Abdullah bin Abbas: "Al-Fadl (his brother) was riding behind Allah's Apostle and a woman from the tribe of Khath'am came and Al-Fadl started looking at her and she started looking at him. The Prophet turned Al-Fadl's face to the other side." (Bukhari)
"Enjoin the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that is safer for them. Surely Allah is well aware of their actions. Likewise enjoin the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; not to display their beauty and ornaments except what normally appears thereof; let them draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their charms except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their own sons, their stepsons, their own brothers, their nephews on either brothers' or sisters' sides, their own womenfolk, their own slaves, male attendants who lack sexual desires or small children who have no carnal knowledge of women. Also enjoin them not to strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden trinkets. And O believers! Turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, about your past mistakes, so that you may attain salvation." (24:30-31)
"And come not near unto adultery. Lo! it is an abomination and an evil way." (17:32)
Women who speak to men with the intention for marriage and you find out he has no intention to marry you and requests that you “remain friends.” Do not do so.  Mention that you have come to this decision through your religious understanding.  Men have a tendency to make women feel weak when she is seeking a spouse, especially after years of seeking. She can feel very confident about herself and her abilities to be a good wife and mother but in the end men tend to weaken the knees of women especially while in the phase of seeking a husband.
Many Muslim Matrimonials open the door wide open as a ploy to gain memberships, even if they are owned by Muslims themselves.Allah As an Admin myself I can fully understand the desire to populate their site but if any Muslim Matrimonials is going to stand upright in the eyes of Allah (swt) we would have to do it the honest way and that is not to fool the Muslims to become attracted to the wrong path.
In the end we hope our members would be thoughtful NOT to tread down the path of seeking, "Friendship" on a Muslim Matrimonials.


Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Dr. Gulzar Ahmad, a Marriage Family Educator and Counselor from Kingdom of Bahrain has agreed to Join Habibi Matrimonials to help the members from all corners of the world. Habibi Matrimonials is extremely pleased with his open willingness and eagerness to help the fellow Muslim members.Dr. Ahmad
Dr. Gulzar Ahmad is also a Professor/ Consultant & Trainer & Corporate Management & Leadership at Buchen Group and President at Pakistan Council on Family Relations!
His objectives on his personal website are ones of immense importance like;
* To provide knowledge, skill and support to the families requiring intervention for alleviating their sufferings, and suggesting them ways and means to safeguard against the ailments, and maintain and promote their mental health.
*To educate the (prospective) couples the ways and means for healthy marital life.
* To work against man-woman-and-child abuse and neglect in families.
* To mitigate and eliminate violence in the family.Welcome Dr. Ahmad
You may contact Dr. Gulzar Ahmad when you join our website for the intention of seeking marriage or at his personal website.
It is with extreme pleasure that we at Habibi Matrimonials welcome Dr. Gulzar Ahmad. He is an important link in the health of a  Muslim Matrimonials and the Muslim members, one in which you will someday refer your single friends, Insha Allah.